ACT don’t react!

Are all the things going as expected? Is your strategy under control? Are you able to apply the plan-B that you carefully designed? If the answer to all these questions is “no”, then probably you have a very bad period. The result is that you feel frustrated and that you have not anymore the control of what’s happening! Moreover you feel that you are not in control of your life and the direction that is taking.

frustrationSo what to do? Well the answer is not easy, or better, there is not an answer or a solution. But there are some suggestions on the process. And the best way to manage the process is very simple like the title of this post: “ACT don’t react”. When the things don’t go as expected we start thinking on a counter move, on a way to oppose to the problem, basically we are reacting. We are just trying to counter balance someone else behavior or someone else decisions. Our space for options is limited and is basically reduced to a “reaction” to what is happening. Moreover there are serious and deep implications on the timing. We are not more deciding and keeping the pace of what we are doing but the pace is dictated by the external events. Frustration is natural, energy goes down, the number of possibilities and available options is reduced and the feeling sooner or later became of impotence and ineffectiveness.

The way forward is to change perspective. It is time to ACT. Action has a different approach. The next move is not dictated by an external event but is your decision. So don’t wait for something to happen. Just do it, make your next step. Keep going, adapt your strategy to the coming events, but don’t let the events to block the actions. Should be the opposite – your actions are the one influencing events. You, your knowledge, your willingness is the asset that allows you to plan your future, to plan the events. Use your positive energy and your positive approach to make the things happen. You are the protagonist of your future and your are the only one who should take control of it. Be focused, be committed, be persistent and will see that you will enjoy the process of creating your own future and sooner or later things will happen exactly as you have planned them to be, because you ACT not because you react!

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There are no wrong decisions!

During our life we are always called to make some decisions. During everyday life, at work, in sports, with family and so on. When we have a decision to take there are very few things that we can do, basically we can just evaluate pros and cons and then we have to take a decision. The only real bad decision is not to take a decision at all. But apart from that “not acting” situation, in all other cases we are going to take a decision (sometimes we are forced to).
My opinion is that whenever you take a well thought decision, evaluating rationally pros and cons, then this is the right decision, and also the best one. Basically the decision process involves the evaluation of the possible outcomes, of the different scenarios and our goal is to choose for the best one.
So the decision is based according to information available. Whenever you apply this basic criteria, there are no bad decisions – they are just the most rational result of the available information.
So the point is not to made the right decision, but to have the right information and possibly to collect as much information as possible in order to improve our decision process. In this way there are no regrets about decisions taken, but there is a continuous pro-active involvement in an improvement process of collecting and processing information. The focus itself is moved from the decision to be taken to the collection of the data and in our capability of managing it.
This is a reason why in general I’m not disappointed for a failure but I’m more disappointed for the fact that I have not forecasted the best decision. And this is even more clear when I have not invested enough time on the collecting information process.
So the outcome of this post is to never regret for a decision taken, not taking any decision is the real mistake. To make your decision just use the information available, if you have time collect even more data, and then use all the collected information to make a rational, balanced and coherent decision – OK this is the best decision you could have made without ifs, ands or buts!